High Point/ Low Point

What was the highlight (high point) of your day? What was the low point?

This is a communication game that Adriano and I have been playing for a couple of years now. You have to identify a high point and a low point in your day to share with your partner...no excuses. The question is not, "What's your highest High Point of the week, month or year?" No. The question is, "What was your High Point for today?" You have to choose something to share, even if it's not something that rocked your world for the day. The same goes for the Low Point. © 2008 - Brianna Sylver - All rights reserved
We've found this communication framework to be really effective. The simplicity of it draws out conversation even if we've come home exhausted from work and can't quite figure out what we want to communicate first, if anything, with each other. By asking these two questions, we get a pretty good indication of all that each other has dealt with for the day. We're then able to more effectively support one another, whether that means giving each other a hug, space, doing something fun together, not feeling dejected if one of us wants to go to bed early, whatever. And the best benefit of all...we feel much more connected to one another once we've shared our day in a holistic fashion by touching on both the high points and the low points of it.

For those who might be skeptical, take on this challenge. Play "High Point/ Low Point" with your spouse or partner for a week. Then go back to simply asking, "How was your day?" I guarantee that you'll find you share more when you have a framework probing you for information, even if the framework is as simplistic as "High Point" and "Low Point."

© 2008 - Brianna Sylver - All rights reserved