Sunday, March 15, 2009
Can Parenting Techniques Work on Adults?
My friend, Andrea, sent me this charming article, on using parenting techniques to avoid and solve conflict with your spouse. It's a funny read and an interesting approach. It's worth a look.
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One thing I thought women would have learned from the Feminist revolution, was not to make the same mistakes that the men had. The trouble starts when you think of men as children. Men have needs and they are not childrens needs. Our behaviors are not irrational just because you may not understand them. We are shaped by society's pressure just as women are.
ReplyDeleteDear Glenncon,
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that you took offense to the post. I think the point that the author of the article was trying to make is that sometimes it's beneficial to try to think of things more simply as a means of helping one to respond instead of react. This was certainly my intent in providing it as content on the Designing Marriage blog.
The fact is, you can gain references in nearly anything regarding how to better yourself and your interactions with others. Fernanda Moore, the author of the "Parenting Techniques to Try On Your Spouse" was simply making correlations between how certain interactions between spouses might be improved if you took to heart the principle of "pick your battles" and practiced actions that encouraged positive interactions, such as "rewarding good behavior."
I don't think Fernanda was making the statement that men are children and that they should all be treated equally. Nor was she undermining the needs of men. She was just wondering, in a creative format, if we can learn something about avoiding conflict with our spouse if we take some cues from the parenting rule books.
Do I agree with everything written in her article? No, but I do find it to be a good reference and an interesting perspective.
Take care,
Brianna